Oh, the evils of FaceBook.
We all have them, don’t we?
That ONE friend who seems to be doing so much better than us in life.
Financially.
Socially.
Husband-ly.
The object of my friend-envy is someone I haven’t seen since my wedding.
(More evils of FaceBook. Why are we even “friends” with these people?)
Her kids are a little older then mine, with the youngest one finishing college and the older ones all grown up and working “real” jobs.
She and her husband, though not officially retired, enjoy week ends jetting off here and there. Ironically we were together the night she met her husband. She “called” him first.
I thought, “Fine. The friend is cuter anyway.”
Do I think I would be “her” if I had “called” him first.
Ha!
No, I don’t think that.
But I do look at her life and compare mine unfavorably.
That’s not good, I know.
And then tonight, it hit me.
All she did was pick a better (i.e. non-alcoholic) husband than me.
I get Facebook envy too, but then try to remind myself that I only post happy pictures or comments that I think will amuse my friends. Some people are drama queens and post about anything and everything, but I think most probably only show the good parts on Facebook and no-one knows what their life is really like.
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I do think some people are at peace and are happy with healthy partners and it is better than the experience we are living. The question we have to ask ourselves is can we really choose to stay living this way and find our own paths to remain happy and healthy? I am not sure if one “stays” in a sick environment without needed emotional support, love and true caring – living with an individual who has “no energy” left to give to their partner due to their habits/addictions/behaviors related to daily overconsumption of alcohol that it is really POSSIBLE to at peace and happy.
That’s an important statement ladies – we can work on ourselves and find ways to cope but if they cannot change we are still living in a SICK SOUP…no ingredient we add in will change it. It is what it is sadly. Change and disconnection may indeed be the road to peace and happiness for all – even those children Wren. We may have to bare the weight of being “the one’s” who said NO, this is not an ok life but we are setting the right example then … FINALLY. Why are waiting, that is the real question…
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I know why I’m waiting. To some its not a good enough reason…but its good enough for me until I can do it on my own. If I’m honest….it all boils down to being partly afraid and ALOT financially.
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