I’m feeling better than yesterday.
This is what life with the alcoholic does to us, isn’t it?
We never totally drown.
We just feel like it.
Often.
But this morning I was walking through Target (I mean that alone can perk a gal up…) when, as if the hand of God put it there herself, right in front of me was the book:
“You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life.” By Jen Sincero
If anyone is a “badass” it’s those of us married to alcoholics!
I mean Roman gladiators didn’t get knocked down and back up as often as we do.
(And frankly some days an areana full of wild beasts would seem an easier fight.)
There are women who this life does kill them.
Maybe not physically but mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
That’s not us.
If you’re here….
If you’re searching for information, support, help…
If you’re reading blogs or writing blogs or doing anything to counter the effects of life with a compulsive drinker…
If there are days when you get up and wrestle a tiny bit of your soul back from the Beast…
Or stay him off completely….
You’re the baddest badass there is.
QuietRagingWaters 
Good to hear! Now I need to get off my own booty and get a good attitude going. Not always easy, but reading your post and your book showed me – yes we are not alone and there is a real “insanity” and brokenness in living with an alcoholic…it is so “NOT OKAY”!! Our only way around this is making sure we don’t let ourselves give up, and keep working on ourselves in order to overcome it.
As I sit here, I was thinking… I so don’t want to go to my weekly counseling appt. – what am I going to say, nothing has changed…talking about it makes me sadder, etc BUT actually getting another person’s perspective to help me think clearer and develop a new HEALTHY COMPASS is exactly what I need.
Thank you for your blog. Thank you for showing me that I am not the only one frustrated with living this way. Mostly I hope we can find a way to connect as a group of women/wives dealing with this to somehow get beyond living with an alcoholic husband and create the lives we truly want for ourselves. Let me know if you start a community/chat or something down the road! It has benefited me to read your blog and book.
“Move towards health” – JDH, RN
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P.S.-strengthwithin- love your “move towards health” – I’m working on that daily. —and I’m a nurse too. 😃
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So glad you’re feeling better and today is a new day! I have that book you saw in Target in my library in my Audible app! ( I Listen to audiobooks on my way to work– drivetime therapy– very helpful!) Haven’t listened yet but I definitely agree that we are badasses! I sometimes think to myself — if these people only knew what we endure in our lives —- I don’t think most could handle it. Living with an alcoholic is not for the faint of heart! I agree with strengthwithin- your book and blog are so very helpful to let us know that we are not alone. It’s a difficult situation to explain to people who are not “living it” – I think it’s a great idea to connect as a group to counter the effects of another’s compulsive drinking — and continue to work on our own Health and happiness. I have thought about Alanon recently but not sure if it’s for me. Thank you again- May tomorrow be a good day too and may we all continue to be BADASS!! 💪🏼❤️
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Ps- strengthwithin- love your “move towards health” – I’m working on that daily. —and I’m a nurse too. 😃
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